You may not even remember when was the last night you slept 8 hours in a raw, or even 8 hours at all. The day has finished, and you feel like you haven’t done anything. When you are staying at home tacking care of your little ones, this feeling is part of your stay at home mom daily routine. Nevertheless, there are a few things you can do to be more successful, do more and feel better — even if your toddler wants to spill a whole bag of flour over your kitchen floors today., you will get to manage a time slot to take care of your things. Yes! YOUR THINGS, those that are not a priority anymore, but you know it has to change and you have to become a priority to yourself for God’s sake.
1. Focus On The Small Things
Being a stay-at-home mom (SAHM) is a tough job. One survey found that 28 percent of SAHMs reported feeling depressed. Many with low wages suffer the most, but every mom feels down from time to time.
The best way to overcome sadness and that “overwhelmed” feeling is to focus on the little things you do in a day. You may not have time to cook lunch, dinner, go over the ABCs, take care of your business, build a tent fort, and clean up the entire house, but you might have built the fort, fed the kids, work in the “musts” of your business, and cleaned the kitchen after dinner.
That’s a lot and you have to give you that! Recognition is important and you are the first one that should be proud of your progress.
Keeping a list of things to do helps you see what you’ve accomplished in a day. Write down even those small tasks, such as cleaning a guest bathroom or reading a book with your first grader. Everything counts! Small progress is still progress and baby steps are more than welcome.
2. Say “No” If It Is The Right Thing To Do For You
You’ve only got so many hours a day, and you’re not going to be around to fulfill everyone’s needs. If that play date isn’t the right use of your time with your child, doesn’t fulfill your life goals, or takes away everything that you really enjoy, you need to say no. Say yes to only those things that really matter, such as family time. Don’t encourage thoughts of remorse to settle in — say no is your way to make the best of the little time you have. Use the time you have available to do something you feel great about, enjoy a good book, work on your stay at home business, take that hot bath, relax, but don’t waste your time in things that are not important to you, and don’t add value to your family.
3. Preparation For Meals
There are time-savings that will set the day free, such as choosing one day a week to cook a dinner. If you set out all your meals on Saturday or Sunday, and Wednesday there’s something that will give you extra time the rest of the week, and at least you’ll be prepared for dinner. You’ll take your pre-prepared meal out of the refrigerator or fridge, heat and feed. No more On -Demand dinners!
Another way to save time is to make the weekly meal a routine. If you like to eat right away after cooking, then plan a menu for the week, even though you will have to cook, you will know exactly what you need, how long it will take you and that way, On-Demand Dinners are out of the tale too.
Another way to save time is to make the weekly meal a routine. Some meal prepping apps allow you to routinize your shopping list based on your weekly meal plan. Planning also helps you shop for large retailers, buy in bulk, and stick to your budget.
Get a couple of takes out dinner days! Taco Tuesdays and Pizza Fridays are days that the entire family is looking forward to while giving you a little rest from the kitchen.
4. Be Aware Of Your Deadlines
Even though you’re not working in the corporate world, it’s all right to set some deadlines for yourself. Have you ever heard of Parkinson ‘s law before? The concept is that if we have a two-week deadline, it’s our nature to take two weeks to complete the project. Overcome the urge to procrastinate by putting deadlines ahead of time when tasks are due. If your child’s preschool application is due within 30 days, give yourself a one-week deadline to complete it and turn it in.
When you set your deadlines, make sure you assign priority to the most important things, so all you can wait on goes to the bottom of the list. If you are working in a new project, give it the importance it needs to become a reality. Sometimes new things take long time to achieve because it has no due date, you have to assign a due date to those new projects. New projects are important for you, and are due to yourself just because it is not for someone else means it shouldn’t be prioritized. You deserve to be a priority.
One of the huge benefits of stay at home moms is that you are free to organize your schedule, you don’t have a boss or a 9 to 5 corporations over your shoulders. Use your time wisely.
5. Prepare The Night Before
Do all you can the night before, such as laying away laundry for the next day and preparing lunches for everybody. Charge your gadtes (iPhone, iWatch, iPad, iPhone ears, etc), prepare your athleisure for your morning workout and review the menu for the next day.
If you think your house is a mess all the time and you can’t get a grip on your day, consider using tools like Fly Lady to learn how to deal with your home without living in chaos or becoming a slave of your cleaning endless tasks.
6. Ask For Help
Do you still find that there is more on your to-do list at the end of the week than you can do? Don’t be afraid to ask family and friends for support. A lot of people want to step in and offer their support, but they don’t know where to start.
You can even assign tasks to family members who have offered help, or tasks to immediate family members.
If it’s in your budget, get some work done. If you can’t find the time (or you simply don’t like) to clean the windows outside, hire someone to do it for you. Local college students also need extra money, particularly during the summer.
If you can’t afford to get some help with the house cleaning, take a look to business for stay at home moms. Some of them requires little or no capital, you can feel fulfilled and productive, you can contribute with your household income and yet stay at home with your kids.
Don’t Forget Why You Decided To Be A Stay At Home Mom
You will never regret the time you spent growing your children into happy, well-adjusted adults. Make every moment of their childhood count. Only allow yourself a rest. If the dishes are left in the sink for a couple hours longer than you’d like, that’s a little item on the huge list of priorities you have for your kids. Don’t feel guilty about it and be flexible.
At the end of the day, you’re educating and raising a potential responsible person, and that’s worth a lot more than all the cool impecable houses in the country. Live in your house, don’t live for your house.